5 Tips to Embracing and Loving Your Imperfectly Perfect Life!

Do you struggle with perfectionism?

Whether it be the attempts you make to be precise or expecting others to be perfect in every way?

Are there people in your life, who can’t live up to your expectations, who are driving you mad?

Striving to be perfect or looking for perfection in others has a different kind of energy versus when we are simply seeking quality or excellence. Perfectionism is often born out of a fear of not getting things right or a fear of failure. It can also come from a strong sense of believing things are ‘black and white’ and having little or no tolerance of ‘grey,’ or the in-between areas.

When we release perfectionism, and allow ourselves to be imperfectly perfect, we can learn from the experimentation of scraping our knees and trying new things that may or may not work. And this can bring about brand new, more powerful ways of being and doing things in our lives.

For example, at Empower World, we run many training programmes, and each time we create much joy and transformation with our participants according to their feedback. And we also get feedback we haven’t done everything perfectly at the same events.

We could choose to allow the things that didn’t go so well or the things we could have done better as signals we aren’t good enough and perhaps make poor decisions as a result. For example, we may scrap a programme, which really could be making a real difference in people’s lives just because we received imperfect feedback.

Or alternatively, we could choose to take that feedback and notice how we can improve what we offer and make our programmes even better. in fact, we consistently review feedback for every training experience, and because of this feedback, we believe our programmes get better and better.

We also recognise as individuals we are absolutely human and we will notice challenges and issues consistently and continuously… every day. It’s part of the human experience to be vulnerable, sad, angry, frustrated, depressed and so forth. It’s when we reach a turning point in our lives, if we choose to embrace these ‘not so great’ emotions and seek the learning underneath this pain, we can begin to support greater awareness and different strategies to move forward in a courageous and powerful way.

Here are some ways of being and doing to support you to embrace your perfectly imperfect lives:

1. Recognise you are enough. You do not need to be anyone other than who you are. The more authentic you are the more powerful you are: imperfectly perfect with everything you need to create positive change within you right now. With that belief comes great power and freedom!
2. Take action now with the understanding there will never be a right time. Waiting until everything is perfect means you will potentially never do what you want to do. So, take action now.
3. Let go of choosing to worry about the ‘good opinion’ of others and listen to your own intuition. Ask yourself: what is important for me to do or be in my life right now and what does my intuition want me to know or do?
4. Choose to bring in laughter joy and fun into your life. Let go of the need to control everything in your life. The only thing you can control is you and your responses to life.
5. Understand the gifts underneath the challenges. There are two sides to every experience: positive and not so positive. With any challenge you have right now – write down and journal the two sides to your experience with the aim of neutralising the not so great things with the wonderful things you haven’t chosen to notice until now.

Choose your imperfectly perfect life and embrace the belief you are enough to live a full and whole-hearted life with love and gusto. And notice your life unfold powerfully and authentically.

Listen to Empower World’s Coaching and Leadership Podcast Episode-88 where Jeanine and Marie have a conversation about imperfection and how being good enough is enough to create a whole hearted life of courage and fulfilment.

Episode-88 can be found here, on iTunes or ‪on Stitcher.

Be Empowered.