The Power of Deep Listening in Coaching Conversations

Coaches are often on the lookout for tools and techniques to enhance sessions and add value to clients. However, through our Empower World experience, we've found that the most impactful way to support our clients is by honing our listening skills.

By paying attention to the whole person – physiology, energy, emotions, metaphors – and listening beyond the words, we can reveal the echoes of the lives and experiences of the people we are partnering with, fostering deeper awareness and more meaningful connections.

Why Listening Matters

Effective listening goes beyond merely hearing words. It's about being fully present and attuned to your client's verbal and non-verbal communication. This deep listening can:

Uncover hidden meanings by observing and noticing beyond the words, which can lead to picking up subtle cues and underlying emotions that might otherwise be missed.

Build trust and rapport when the person we are with feels truly heard. In this space, they are more likely to open up and share honestly and bravely, strengthening the relationship.

Facilitate self-discovery through reflective listening, supporting clients to gain new insights into their thoughts and behaviours, leading to greater self-awareness.

Listening Beyond Words

Listening beyond words involves tuning into the unspoken elements of communication. This includes paying attention to:

Tone and pace of speech: Variations in the voice can indicate stress, excitement, hesitation, or other emotional states.

Body language: Gestures, posture, facial expressions, and more can reveal feelings that words alone may not convey.

Silences: Pauses and spaces where no words are spoken can be powerful, offering moments for reflection and indicating areas that might need further exploration.

Feeling the Truth in Your Body

"It may be difficult to define the truth, it’s very easy to feel it in your body." – Bert Hellinger

Bert Hellinger’s insight reminds us that while words can sometimes obscure or ‘hide’ the truth, our bodies can reveal the deeper truth in so many simple ways. By paying attention to the physical sensations and emotions that arise during coaching sessions, and getting curious about what they might mean to the client, both coaches and clients can gain a more authentic understanding of their true feelings and insights.

Creating Deeper Awareness

By integrating deep listening into your coaching practice or in any conversation that requires attention and support, you can assist the people you are partnering with to create a more profound connection to themselves and their relationships. Here are a few ideas to enhance your listening skills:

Practice a mindful presence before and during sessions to stay fully engaged with your client.

Become aware of how your body is positioned and shaped to listen deeply and move into that physiology before a conversation begins - no matter what role you are in, a coach, a leader, a parent, a partner, or a friend.

Reflect, mirror back, and clarify what you hear to ensure understanding between parties.

Observe non-verbal cues by observing and noticing your client’s body language and other non-verbal signals.

Embrace silence and allow for pauses in the conversation to give clients space to process and reflect.

Developing your listening skills can transform your coaching and leadership practice, enabling you to support others more effectively. Practice not asking so many questions, instead pay attention and share what you are experiencing beyond the words and uncover deeper insights, foster stronger connections, and create meaningful change in the coaching and leadership conversations and beyond.

Be empowered,
Jeanine and Marie, Empower World Co-founders 

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