The Coaching Belief That Can Change Everything in Your Coaching Practice

This newsletter is inspired by Empower World's Coaching and Leadership Podcast conversation between Jeanine Bailey and Marie Quigly, Co-founders of Empower World: Episode 258 - 'The Belief That Changes Everything About How You Coach'

What if the thing standing between your client and their breakthrough is not their problem - but your belief about their ability to solve it?

There is a principle at the heart of professional coaching that almost every coach has heard. It sounds simple and obvious, and most coaches - if asked - would say they believe it completely: 'their clients are naturally creative, resourceful and whole.' That the answers their coaching partners seek are already within them and the coach's role is to create the conditions for the client to discover it for themselves.

This is beautiful and powerful in theory. It can also be harder to put into practice than many coaches might openly admit.

The uncomfortable truth about this principle

Here is what actually happens in many coaching sessions - because the coaching profession attracts people who are human-centred and genuinely care about the people they work with: 

• A coaching partner struggles to contain their emotions because something difficult has surfaced. Or perhaps they are silent - sitting in something that feels heavy or raw. And in that moment - a shift happens.

• The coach stops trusting the client. Not consciously. Not deliberately. But the quiet, anxious thought arrives sounding like: 'they cannot handle this. I need to help. I need to step in.'

• And so the coach decides to intervene. A question is offered. A reframe is suggested. The conversation is gently steered somewhere safer.

• The partner is moved on, before they were perhaps ready to move. And what was right there, on the edge of something genuinely transformative - disappears.

Why we rescue and what it costs

The rescuing impulse is not weakness. It is care perhaps 'wearing the incorrect clothes' in these scenarios. When a client tears up, many coaches interpret that as distress - as evidence that something has gone wrong, that they have pushed too far, that they need to pull back.

But tears are not always a signal that something is breaking. Sometimes they are a signal that something is finally being seen - something that was ready to be seen.

Emotions are not problems to be managed. They are like data. They are the body's way of telling us whether we are living in alignment with what truly matters - or turning away from it. A client who reaches tears in a coaching session may not be falling apart. They may, for the first time in a very long time, be fully present with their own truth.

When a coach rescues that moment - however well-intentioned - they send an unspoken message: I don't think you can handle this.

And the client, who was on the edge of something important, learns to pull back too.

What it actually looks like to trust your client

Trusting that your client is naturally creative, resourceful, and whole is not a passive act. It is one of the most demanding and courageous things a coach can do.

It means staying present when the conversation gets uncomfortable, because you believe in their capacity to navigate it.

• It means holding the space without filling it.
• It means resisting the urge to offer the next question, the next insight, the next helpful thought - and instead letting the silence allow the partner to do their work - just like a butterfly emerging from a chrysalis. 
• It means trusting that what is emerging in the session, however difficult or unfamiliar, is arising in service of the client's growth - not as evidence that the coaching has gone wrong.

This begins long before the difficult moment arrives through our contracting at the start of a coaching relationship where a coach and partner explore together what it means to work with emotions when they arise, what the client needs when things get difficult, and what kind of space they are creating together.

When that foundation is in place, both coach and client can enter those brave moments with far greater confidence, because the client knows they are held, and the coach knows they have permission to stay.

The philosophical roots of this belief

This principle did not emerge from nowhere. It is woven through some of the most significant traditions in human development and psychology.

Carl Rogers - the father of person-centred therapy - built his entire approach on what he called unconditional positive regard. The radical belief that every human being, when given the right conditions of acceptance, empathy and authenticity, has the inherent capacity to grow and heal.

Neuro-linguistic programming - another form of support - for all its differences from coaching, also holds this same belief at its core - that given the appropriate circumstances, human beings can work out what they most deeply need.

These are not fringe ideas. They are the intellectual and philosophical bedrock of coaching as a profession. And yet, when a client sits across from us in a moment of real difficulty, honoring the belief that the people we partner with are naturally creative, resourceful, and whole can feel challenging - unless we embody it fully.

A question worth sitting with

Imagine for a moment that every client who ever came to you carrying something difficult, emotional, uncertain, raw - was already closer to their own answer than you realised.

Imagine that your presence, your stillness, your refusal to rescue them was the very thing that allowed them to find it. Imagine what becomes possible in a coaching conversation where the coach's deepest, most embodied belief is simply: you have everything you need. I am here. And I am not going anywhere.

That is not soft or passive. That is not doing nothing. That is one of the most powerful things one human being can offer another.

The reflective question that changes everything

So here is the question worth taking into your next session, and perhaps into a quiet moment of honest self-reflection before it: Do you truly believe your client is naturally creative, resourceful and whole - or do you only believe it when the session is going well?

The real test of this belief is not what we say we believe. It is what we do in the moment when staying present is harder than stepping in.

What has your experience been of holding this belief - or being challenged by it - in your own coaching or leadership practice? 

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If this reflection resonates with you, you may enjoy listening to the full conversation on the Empower World Coaching and Leadership Podcast with Jeanine Bailey and Marie Quigley, Co-Founders of Empower World. You can listen to the full episode here:

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