Follow the Breadcrumbs of Your Life
Dec 18, 2018
Have you ever met someone who has always known what they wanted to do in life? The type of person that declared boldly at an early age, “I want to be a doctor.” Or “I want to be a firefighter.” Or maybe, “I want to become a singer!” And then you find them twenty, thirty or forty years down the road, as pediatricians in a private practice, or as a firefighter saving lives, or you see them performing, singing passionately on the stage.
Maybe you are one of these people who at an early age knew what you were meant to be doing later in life. Some people seem to know themselves so truly - who hear the siren song of their life’s calling loudly, which they follow to get to the place they know is the pathway for them.
For others, the pathway is perhaps not so clear, or maybe even muddy, which may mean going down one road which doesn’t feel right, but sticking to it in the belief it may be too late or too risky to try something else. Or, for others, it may mean attempting all sorts of different options in search of the ideal passageway forward which feels purposeful and fulfilling.
Whichever path you have found yourself on, they will have their pros and cons, and it’s the perspective we view our choices which will make all the difference as to whether it motivates and inspires us, or whether it makes us feel de-energised and unfulfilled.
If you are pursuing your passion and living according to your purpose and values, then you are most likely on a beautiful mission. And if you are not, this is ok too. More than ok, because there is beauty in the journey, no matter how winding the path. And one of the ways to finding our life’s calling is following the 'breadcrumbs' of our life's story.
‘Breadcrumbs’ are clues in our lives which show a pathway we are drawn to. Maybe the breadcrumbs show a theme, such as helping and healing people, organizing gatherings, writing or teaching. They will be something that is perhaps consistently enjoyed and energises us when we do what is perhaps our life’s calling and purpose, such as being artistically creative in different ways and/or in diverse roles as we move along in life.
We might also have an intuitive or observant friend, colleague or family member who provides a clue by acknowledging a skill or an achievement – and when we hear it, it may excite us or it might pique our curiosity.
Or it may be a defining moment in our life when we experience something that really shakes up our world and we hear a voice inside us that is so loud that it tells us something like “I’ve got to stop doing this,” or “I must start doing what I truly want.” A voice that cries out to say: start following your dream and your heart’s desire.
Maybe you are one of these people who at an early age knew what you were meant to be doing later in life. Some people seem to know themselves so truly - who hear the siren song of their life’s calling loudly, which they follow to get to the place they know is the pathway for them.
For others, the pathway is perhaps not so clear, or maybe even muddy, which may mean going down one road which doesn’t feel right, but sticking to it in the belief it may be too late or too risky to try something else. Or, for others, it may mean attempting all sorts of different options in search of the ideal passageway forward which feels purposeful and fulfilling.
Whichever path you have found yourself on, they will have their pros and cons, and it’s the perspective we view our choices which will make all the difference as to whether it motivates and inspires us, or whether it makes us feel de-energised and unfulfilled.
If you are pursuing your passion and living according to your purpose and values, then you are most likely on a beautiful mission. And if you are not, this is ok too. More than ok, because there is beauty in the journey, no matter how winding the path. And one of the ways to finding our life’s calling is following the 'breadcrumbs' of our life's story.
‘Breadcrumbs’ are clues in our lives which show a pathway we are drawn to. Maybe the breadcrumbs show a theme, such as helping and healing people, organizing gatherings, writing or teaching. They will be something that is perhaps consistently enjoyed and energises us when we do what is perhaps our life’s calling and purpose, such as being artistically creative in different ways and/or in diverse roles as we move along in life.
We might also have an intuitive or observant friend, colleague or family member who provides a clue by acknowledging a skill or an achievement – and when we hear it, it may excite us or it might pique our curiosity.
Or it may be a defining moment in our life when we experience something that really shakes up our world and we hear a voice inside us that is so loud that it tells us something like “I’ve got to stop doing this,” or “I must start doing what I truly want.” A voice that cries out to say: start following your dream and your heart’s desire.
An Empower World trained coach, Anita Tomany, is an example of listening to her heart and following the clues – the breadcrumbs in her life - which led her down the path to eventually setting up her own coaching and consulting business. She now knows what she was meant to be in this world, but she says it isn’t something she could see at the beginning of her life. There was an unfolding; a trail, a pattern that kept appearing in everything she did which was assisting and serving people.
The pattern started when her parents set up a hotel when she was a teenager and she helped them out with their business. And then she went through her military service where she did much to support the military men and women and support their families. And the pattern repeated in her corporate career in human resource leadership roles for organisations such as Vodafone.
And when she decided to introduce coaching as a leadership skill in the business she was serving, she undertook the training herself. She recognised the power of coaching conversations to support people to become accountable to help themselves and become independent. And this concept was hugely attractive and empowering to Anita.
And when she decided to introduce coaching as a leadership skill in the business she was serving, she undertook the training herself. She recognised the power of coaching conversations to support people to become accountable to help themselves and become independent. And this concept was hugely attractive and empowering to Anita.
She subsequently chose to follow her heart (and her breadcrumbs) by focusing largely on offering coaching, mentoring and consulting as a means of supporting the people and organisations she was drawn to. This has meant embarking on her new adventure by launching Cactus House Consultancy and Coaching with her husband focusing on the requirements and needs of their clients.
Anita says, “I am a real believer in getting out there and trying something different.” She connected to her trail of breadcrumbs, kept seeking different ways to meet what she was passionate about (serving people), and eventually the coach training facilitated a way to pull together her awareness, experience and skills together to create her new business.
Anita took a leap of faith in herself by creating a business to give her the freedom to deliver what is very much a part of her purpose, incorporating all of the diverse experiences and connections she has made during her life’s experiences to set herself up for success.
To uncover the breadcrumbs in your own life, to determine your own life’s calling and purpose, reflect on the following questions:
- What do you love to do most?
- What are you really passionate about?
- What is really important to you?
- When have you felt truly alive? What were you doing or experiencing?
- What defining moments have happened in your life that have energised or inspired you? Or made you reflect to believe you should be doing something different?
- What acknowledgments have you received about yourself which have resonated with you or surprised you?
- What do you want to experience?.
Notice any patterns or themes and get curious about what that really means for you to decipher what might be your own pathway or truth. Explore what they may mean and potentially identify a way to explore them. And if you feel a little stuck – consider working with a coach to uncover a way forward if you realise you are not following the breadcrumbs of your path towards your compelling life .
Be empowered.
To learn more, listen to the Empower World Coaching and Leadership Podcast, Episode 114 here.
Episode-114 can be found here:
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Episode-114 can be found here:
Direct Link: http://bit.ly/2AJWFgU
#stitcher: http://bit.ly/
#itunes: http://bit.ly/EW-
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